How much screen time is too much for kids? It’s complicated

For many parents in the digital age, battles over screen time and devices have become a depressing part of family life, and knowing how much is too much has become a moving target…

Peacefully Parenting Together After You’ve Parted

Here are 2 tips from this great piece about successful co-parenting:

  • Even though you may sometimes feel or believe that your former partner is not focused on your children’s well-being, give him or her the benefit of the doubt. Since you will never know the actual truth, if you choose to believe the best about the other parent, you will feel greater calm, peace and love. Doing this not only improves your own well-being, it also helps your children.
  • Avoid evaluating or complaining openly about how the other is parenting. If needed, choose one close and trusted friend who is willing to hear all of your rants and complaints. Don’t ever share these kinds of feelings with your children.

Read the article here.

Heading Back to School after a Divorce

With fall quickly approaching, it is that time again, at once bittersweet and anticipated by parents everywhere – back-to-school. But, if you are recently separated or in the midst of a divorce, this first back-to-school season will be another in a series of adjustments. Summer certainly had its own challenges and negotiating vacations when children are not in school can be tough, but the upcoming school year poses its own unique issues to face. Read more.

With Communication and Planning, Sunny Days are Ahead

If you have recently gone through a divorce or are currently going through one, the summer may seem like a daunting proposition. A season typically filled with leisure, relaxation and fun in the sun may now bring up feelings of anxiety and uncertainty. This is especially true if there are children involved. As parents, you will certainly want to make the transition as easy as possible for your children, and this can be more complicated in summer when school is out and many embark on annual family vacations. Read more.

Counting Parenting Time (Even When the Kids are Sleeping)

In trying to equalize a parenting schedule, do you count “sleep time” and “school time” or only “awake time”?  In a modification action, a Probate and Family Court judge changed the parenting schedule without finding a change in circumstances on the theory that the percentage of “awake time” (time that the “children were not at school, camp, or awake”) spent with each parent was roughly equivalent to the previous schedule. The Appeals Court reversed, noting that the law has not “neatly divided custodial parenthood into waking, sleeping, and schooling categories.  Nor should it.  Disregarding sleep or school time ignores that children get sick, have nightmares, and otherwise require their parent’s assistance at unexpected times.”  Parents are always “on call,” the Appeals Court continued: “[t]he responsibilities of a parent do not end when a child is asleep, at school or day care, or otherwise outside of the parent’s presence.”  Katzman v. Healy, 77 Mass.App.Ct. 589