- Relationships get increasingly complex once a kid arrives.
- Many parents are fighting — and even divorcing — over differences in their parenting styles.
- However, therapists say that arguments break out when one person is trying to change the other, a problem couples can face before ever becoming parents.
- Therapists say the key is not to resist those differences and change how your partner parents, but to embrace the differences, talk about them, and use them as a way to learn more about each other.
Meri Wallace, a child and family therapist based in New York, has been working with a couple who have drastically different ideas about how to raise their young son. Recently, they decided those differences were too much to handle, and they’re getting divorced.
This scenario is hardly uncommon. Even if parents don’t wind up divorcing, they often end up ensnared in arguments about whose parenting style is “right,” arguments they never could have anticipated when they first got together.
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