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My Spouse Does Not Want a Divorce: What Should I Do? Six Strategies.

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Divorce and Family Law

by Jonathan Fields

It would be nice if all marriages lasted.

It would also be great if all divorces were uncontested and free of acrimony. Unfortunately, there is no “perfect” marriage and a smooth divorce is not always possible.

Because New York has recognized no-fault divorce, the decision to divorce does not have to be mutual. It is enough that one party alleges that the marriage has broken down and the court will eventually grant a divorce (despite the unwilling spouse’s attempts to remain wed).

6 Strategies to Ask for A Divorce That is Not Mutual

  1. Enlist The Help of An Attorney

Regardless of how each spouse feels, it’s imperative to consult with an attorney who specializes in divorce and family law. Even if it is mutual, discussing the division of assets, custody, and parenting schedules (plus any other elements of a disintegrating marriage) can easily trigger stress, anger, anxiety, and sadness. With such an increase in intense emotion, it’s important to have an attorney on your side to ensure that your rights are protected, that you’re receiving or paying the proper amount of spousal maintenance or child support, and that custody and parenting time is established properly.

  1. Be compassionate

Each spouse should approach the other with empathy. Your decision to divorce may result in anger, sadness, and/or depression. If you are the partner initiating the conversation, offer to listen and to keep the lines of communication open.

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